There Is No Failure Only Feedback

There is no failure only feedback ~ So be gentle with yourself. You gain nothing by being harsh on yourself. No it doesn’t inspire greater levels of achievement. In most cases the result of excessive expectations on your self is that you shut down, play small, avoid risk and ultimately fail to achieve much at […]

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Know in your heart

Know in your heart that what you believe about your world is foundational to who you are, a small exploration into many people’s beliefs quickly reveal inconsistencies and uncertainty. When you’re not sure what you believe in, even at a subconscious level. It will erode your confidence in your ability to trust in yourself or […]

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Some People Just Don’t Get It

Why do some people think I should believe in everything they believe? Some People Just Don’t Get It. It’s not enough that I have to just listen to their opinion I have to agree with it; I have to agree with it or they won’t shut up. They use there opinions like a baseball bat […]

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A Story Of Frustration

Have you ever felt stuck inside your own head? If you have you might like to hear about Jan (Not her real name), a client of mine, who came to see me recently, to let me know how her life was going and what she’s learnt in the 12 months since we worked together. You […]

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Life is a highway

I sometimes use the analogy of life being like a highway and the off ramps along the way being like distractions to our true destination or purpose. The highway is going where we want to go, but all along the route are off ramps that entice us to take them instead. We could take any […]

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Why it’s good to be uncomfortable

  Everything you do, everything you put up with, you do for a reason, you choose it. It may not make much sense or it might even be self-destructive but at some level it has a pay-off or we simply wouldn’t do it. For example we all get paid what we actually think we’re worth, […]

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Changing Habits

This picture quote from Mark Twain goes “Habit is Habit, and not be thrown out the window by any man, but rather coaxed down the stairs a step at a time” got a lot of response recently suggesting it is a common thing. (Actually I think all struggles are common, we all have them, only […]

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From Comfortably Numb To Dreaming Big Goals

Do you sometimes feel comfortably numb? How can you  get from feeling comfortably numb to dreaming big goals? 36 years ago Pink Floyd released a song called “Comfortably Numb” It became something of an anthem for me. A catch phrase for the state I desired. Yes there have been times in my life when I […]

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Your Mindset And Why It Matters

Let’s look at Your Mindset And Why It Matters. Dictionary definition “A set of beliefs or a way of thinking that determine somebody’s behaviour and outlook” Many people have this the wrong way round. They consider their outlook first, then that creates in them a feeling or emotion, then they get caught up thinking about […]

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How To Own A Happy Place

Do you have a memory of a great time in your life? It may be just one day or just a part of a day, but it was one when you felt like you could walk on water? Everything was going your way? It was like you were swimming with the flow in warm water, […]

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